Sunday, August 10, 2008

RIP Bernie Mac

Bernie Mac
1957 - 2008

Today one is another to mourn for the world of comedy as they lost another of their shining Star. Bernard Jeffrey McCullough better known as Bernie Mac passed away from pneumonia this morning. I am truly shocked and he is one of the best stand up comedians ever. For one thing he is respected is he never uses the N word as most of other Black comedians frequently uses during their stand up routine.

Bernie you will be missed.

"I had a white guy tell me... he said, "Bern, why do black folks use the word 'mother-fucker?'" Well, I'm gonna break down what the word "mother-fucker" actually means. "Mother-fucker" is somethin' that black folks have been using for years. It's about expression. Don't be ashamed of the word "mother-fucker." Because the word "mother-fucker" is a noun: it describes a person, place, or thing!"

"There's no such thing as white-collar crime. And there's definitely no such thing as black-on-black crime. Crime is crime. Let me explain something to you. I don't care if you have a white collar or a tank top. If you rob me, I'm gonna whup your ass. "

Tuesday, August 05, 2008

La Salle PJ 1999

Its been wut....9 years since we left skool? Wow i just look at our skool mag and see all the faces at the klass photos and klass captions. OMG we are getting old! fuckin shieat!! I look at myself then and look at myself now... not much changes but somehow i look different! Kinda miss it when comes to think about it! Then all we have to worry about is what to eat during recess or when will i start studying for exams... 2 days before or a day before! hehe.

Recently met wit a few lasallians during xmas! some working... some studying some bumming and mostly stressed! some i never thought will made it so, well some i expect to make it... never really get what they wanted. Some i tot will be certain profession instead became something else. Well in this 6 years alot have changed! lifestyles wise! Well some u see everyday in skool now u dun even see them at all since skool! what happened to you all?? i'm just curious... i heard a few teachers are still there but most of them have either retired or changed to other skool. For me one of the most memorable occasion in our batch is the massive 'hoi pau' , 'lauk', 'bungkus' session. everytime the birthday song is sang and a loud rumble made by moving chairs and table... u know someone is getting their ass whopped by their 'friends'.

Well, the name 'siva datang' still sometimes gives the the chills. going out of klass we needed thet green pass... if no pass.. then siva comes...'where is your pass?' ...'sir, i really needed to...' ... 'shut up u!'....whooop... a cane on da butt...Met Mr.Siva once few years back... he is still the same... still instills this fear deep inside your sub conscious. He went 'hey boys' i jumped up! hehe... but its all cool. he is a nice guy outside of skool. He told us he sometimes hang around subang area... oh ya! and our beloved roti canai man 'mahn' haha. with his roti canai flinging skills... classic. Pak Abu which is still around... scolding students that dirtying the area... the scouts den is still around and shabby as usual... raju's gate has made way for the rukun tettanga and the saddest things is the old block now is the new old block and the new block now is the old new block!get it? toilets still so smelly... oh ya talking about toilets... i remember there was once we have to run to the office to register to have the keys to the toilet... oh my.. that is a real bitch...!

Mr. Viji still haves his afro and still working in lasalle. Principals have changed... dicipline teachers have changed... i wonder the essence tat we left still remains or not? or has it changed... Going to f-troop means we get to miss class... purposely making noise during assembly so we get to stand in the middle of the field under the scorching sun so we can miss class!!! well it was well worth it aint it??! monday assembly is a real bitch coz Pn. Ramlah will be giving her super long yet interesting speeches... complaining about every thing that she sees... well some praises do came in. But at least she is more chilled then Siti Noor.

Then Mr.chin's skool songs during la salle week. "A.C.S... anglo chinese skool...' hahahha. and of course his burung kakak tua songs and his new club. 'Kelab kongsi gelap'.... classic... the public canning of students during assembly is more like a entertainment... the one punished is greeted as if they are some rock stars... the crowd will cheer... then they will enter the lab... then 'whooopshhh...phakk...!!!!' he comes out... smiling...

The new form 6 gals that came in have to get used to the roaming eyes and the constant whistling and shouting from the fucking perverted guys... its like an exhibition... haha for the guys tat is. Cmon we never get to see gals other then the slow walk pass our neighbour...assunta, ok!

Somehow we unite when we are challenged by other school. I remember when Catholic High, Sultan Abdul Samad and Bukit Bintang skool came to our skool for handball tournament. It was the semi's... the skool unite and Mr. Siva actually allow us to skip class to support the team! the school became like a fortress... everyone was shouting and cheering... one reason is coz we are allowed to skip class and one is coz we just somehow love the skool.... even we say we hate it... coz we are proud to be a lasallian...

Cross country is like a massive prison break session... and the famous 'TEPUK LA SALLE!' ...miss it... the canteen days... PJK's... i remember 20minutes before skool ends we are already packed and ready to go. well i can remember the time when we left skool for the last time after spm.motorbikes ramming... fireworks blasting... ppl screaming... friends shaking hands... laughters... its was then we all parted ways walking out of the gate... and all that ended...some became successful some didnt, some left us... some dissapeared...some moved on... some remains the same... its been so long...

to all lasallian year 1999 i wish u all the best in wut ever u all are doing... thanks for the memories! damn writing this is like as if we are leaving this world soon only... haha... sentimental sial!!!

'I think it's the duty of the comedian to find out where the line is drawn and cross it deliberately.' -george carlin-

'More than any other time in history, mankind faces a crossroads. One path leads to despair and utter hopelessness. The other, to total extinction. Let us pray we have the wisdom to choose correctly.' -woody allen-

'I was so poor growing up, if I wasn't born a boy I'd have nothing to play with.' -rodney dangerfield-

'When I was young I was called a rugged individualist. When I was in my fifties I was considered eccentric. Here I am doing and saying the same things I did then and I'm labeled senile.' -george burns-

Sunday, August 03, 2008

Trust in a relationship

I've come across this article while browsing yahoo which states what are one of the main relationship ending dating behavior... which sounds pretty convincing. Guys and gals out there... TRY not to do this and cmon la... give your partner a break! haha. The most important thing when it comes to a relationship is to have trust in your partner. If he/she does not provide your trust then its time to end it or time to talk it out!

Well if your partner wants to cheat on you either he/she is a HORN DOG or there is something you cant do for or give him/her till they sees someone who can and so much better then you... well they will be definitely attracted to. So access the entire problem and try to work things out la! The problem might not be him/her... it could be YOU! remember the rule of pointing... one finger pointing at people... four fingers pointing at yourself!

So dont go and hide and keep your emotions or hatred till one day you just explode all over your partner and all cant be save anymore... so chill and read this article below...


Six Relationship-Ending Dating Behaviors

These violations of trust will kill any relationship

By David Wygant

Finding the one to share a relationship with is a blessing. Once you've bonded with this special someone, keep in mind that respecting your partner's privacy and retaining trust are essential to maintaining a healthy relationship. If you cross certain behavioral boundaries that violate your partner's trust, you may cause irreparable damage to your relationship.

As a dating coach, I'm not usually a fan of hard and fast "rules" for relationships. I've, nevertheless, identified widespread behaviors which will likely end any relationship. So to help you ensure that you don't breach the "trust" boundary in your relationship, here are six detrimental dating behaviors that should always be avoided:

1. Prying into private info. If you suspect your partner of betrayal, does that give you the right to start reading your partner's email? To listen to his/her voicemail messages? To hack into his/her online profile? The answer to all of these is "no!" You should never dig through your partner's personal emails or listen to your partner's voicemail messages. By doing this, you violate not only your partner's trust, but also the trust your partner has with anyone who left those voice messages and emails.

2. Lying for the greater good. Lying is never good in a relationship, although we've probably all been guilty of doing it. Lying to your partner in an effort to avoid hurting him/her or to avoid confrontation may seem like a wise decision. Regrettably, you will end up digging a deeper hole for yourself when that lie is exposed, which is almost always inevitable. When caught in this situation, you end up hurting your partner anyway, and whatever you were trying to protect your partner from -- by lying to them -- will be even worse because of your deception. I recommend honestly communicating with your partner from the get-go.

3. Pulling a "James Bond." You should never snoop in your partner's private things (drawers, wallet, filing cabinet, or private records -- such as bank or credit card statements). Furthermore, nothing justifies snooping. No matter what you have a "hunch" about, snooping through your partner's things should never be pursued to confirm or deny your hunch. Your partner's possessions and personal records should be kept private unless he/she gives you permission to look at them. Spying on your partner is one of the most blatant violations of your partner's trust and will achieve nothing except having your partner never trust you to be alone near his/her things ever again.

4. Designating yourself "Magnum P.I." Another ill-advised way some people try to verify suspected bad behavior by their partner is to take on the role of private investigator by attempting to "catch their partner in the act" of doing something. Whether this takes the form of searching for your partner's car by driving by his/her house, work, or gym or it takes the form of following your partner in your car, this is something you should never do. Even if you have a convincing hunch that your partner is hiding something from you, stalking is the wrong way to address it. If your partner finds out you've been "tailing him/her" in your car, he/she will no longer trust you.

5. Sending others to do your dirty work. Don't ever send a friend or anyone else to gather information for you about your partner or to spy on your partner for you. This means, don't send a friend to go hang out where you know or suspect your partner will be. Don't have your friend try to eavesdrop on your partner's conversations in places he/she goes. Don't ask your friends to use their cell phone to snap covert pictures of your partner. All of these favors from friends not only violate your partner's trust, but also reveal your total lack of trust in your partner.

6. Checking up constantly. One of the biggest ways to reveal that you don't trust your partner is to manifest that distrust with paranoid and obsessive behavior. While calling your partner regularly is quite normal, calling him/her incessantly to "check up" comes off as obsessive and will drive your partner away. If, for example, your partner is unable to answer his/her phone for a few hours and by the time he/she accesses it he/she discovers you've called 50 times, you not only come off as being paranoid and obsessive, but you clearly communicate to your partner that you distrust him/her. Also, when you panic every time 10 minutes go by without a reply from your partner by a phone call or an email, it sends the exact same message.

So even if you have some type of "intuition" that your partner is hiding something from you, it's better to engage in a confrontation with him/her openly rather than searching for answers secretly. Even if your partner doesn't respond to your attempts to talk about it the first, second, or third time, chances are that you'll eventually discuss it -- and the outcome of voicing your suspicions honestly with your partner will always be better than if your partner discovers you engaged in any of the behaviors I've talked about.

No matter how much love exists in your relationship, it cannot survive without trust. Violating someone's trust will never take a relationship to a better place. In fact, by doing so, you may very well be single-handedly orchestrating the end of what could have been a fantastic relationship. Also, keep in mind that I didn't mention the most obvious relationship-ending behavior to avoid: cheating.
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